Tuesday, 16 June 2009

Two confessions...

Yes you read correctly, I've not only told the girl I've (semi-)started to see but a very good friend of mine.

Unfortunately it wasn't face to face with the girl which would have been preferable but via email (the next best thing?) but was brave and sent the message telling her, possibly the scariest message I've sent. Initially there was a lovely text message, but made no mention of the subject, the next day I got a lengthy response with various questions which in fairness I had said that if she had any questions to fire away so not unexpected. That's where I am with that at the moment, not the complete negative response I was expecting.

Meanwhile, Rachael an old rg friend came down recently to see me, it was great to see her first of all as we'd not seen each other for a good few months and secondly for the chat we had. It wasn't a completely out of the blue introduction to the subject of me being trans as she already knew, we went out a good while back and I told her then-I hadn't told anyone else since and we hadn't spoken about it since we split up. It's really nice as we still get on really well. Rach was quizzing me about the new girl and I'd said that I'd been trying to be very open about it and had sent her a message telling her. We spent the rest of the evening talking about whether I wanted to transition and the like, it was really good to talk to her about it all-felt like a weight had been lifted. I've been invited to go out with her sometime, she's seen me dressed but not how I dress now so that will be good and a little scary.

Thanks to everyone that has posted comments, all your advice and experience is greatly welcomed and appreciated, thank you!

Jenn xx


alan said...

I don't know how anyone could listen to the beautiful heart and soul that speak in each entry here and not adore you, even if they hadn't seen you; let alone once they have!

Fingers crossed that your fears are for naught!


Lady Alexia said...

Oh Sweetie, I will be thinking of you in my prayers that things turn out well. It sounds that at least she is being very good about it so far. I second about the beautiful soul that is displayed in your written word. I also hope if I ever follow along the path you are on, I can just look half a pretty. Stay strong sister.


Dana Andra said...

I've told nearly everyone I know, with a few exceptions, that I'm trans, to universally good reactions. I've not, however, told a woman I've started dating, and in fact, I've virtually stopped dating because I really don't expect many women to want to date a someone who is trans. Perhaps I'm not giving myself, and them, an honest chance, but dating is complicated enough without the added burden of the "guy" you're dating wanting to be a woman. Having said that, you seem to have gotten an excellent reaction from the gal you're seeing, which gives me hope that I'll meet someone for whom being transgendered isn't a deal-breaker. Best wishes to you, and to the gal lucky enough to meet someone like you.

chrissie said...

Dana said "I really don't expect many women to want to date a someone who is trans."

I had more dates in the four years I lived as a girl, then I've had in the whole of my "male" life.

People can always surprise you, Dana. :)


Sara Jones said...

Yikes, and kudos. Hope everything turns out okay with the girl. I think you have done the right thing. Irrespective of the outcome.

Hugs xo


Lynn Jones said...

Yay, a positive T* story! :)

There's nothing like good old natter is there? Glad to read things are going well.

Vanessa Law said...

My thoughts and prayers are with you hon. That was a brave thing you did, I hope it opens the way for a beautiful and honest relationship with this girl.


sooty-sweep said...

Dana - speaking from the other side of a relationship, I have no issues with it, and feel it has made our relationship stronger that I know. It means that we both need keep no secrets from each other, and can be (and are) involved in every part of each other's lives.

Jenn - I hope this works out for you. You deserve it!